I was just sitting here when something dawned on me. I was still ticked off by the article I told you about on February 21, when I realized what the real reason is for this disturbance.
It’s this: it comes down to other people telling you that this is how you should feel, therefore they expect you to negate your own feelings and therefore give up control to them.
So. Are you giving up your autonomy in this way? The way you feel IS the way you feel. There are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. This is how you feel. So stick with it.
I don’t mean you should harbor it. I’m just saying, own how you feel and you tell other people that you have the RIGHT to feel this way.
You have the right to feel.
Don’t forget that! And don’t let other people tell you otherwise. They have the right to their feelings too. But they don’t have the right to dictate to you how you should feel or how you act upon those feelings.
That’s why forgiveness is so difficult. If it comes from your desire that is NOT based on someone else’ expectations, but your own desire, that’s one thing. Forgiveness truly means that you accept that other person. But if you cannot do that, then there’s no point in going through the motions.
The past is past. That’s all there is to it.
Cheers. Dr. Joanny
Dr. Joanny Liu, TCMD, RAc, P.Eng. Dr Joanny Liu “Best Selling Author and founder of Extraordinary Sports Medicine, where we help athletes reverse injury, get back in the game they love and improve their quality of life.” Best selling book at: Heal Your Concussion: How to Quickly and Effectively Get Back in the Game Remember, we’ve got two books about healing concussions in Amazon: Knock OUT Concussions, Heal Your Concussion: 21 Days to Brain Health, and Dr. Joanny’s new book, Heal Your Concussion: How to Quickly and Effectively Get Back in the Game is NOW live on Amazon!
